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To You: The Girl Who Needs To Love Herself More Than Him

You thought he was the one. You gave him everything. He was more than just the love of your life, he was the sun that your universe revolved around, and you would’ve happily stayed in his orbit for all of eternity. But then one day like a meteor he knocked you out of that orbit and suddenly you were free falling through space with no purpose, no destination. And the worst part is that at the end of the day, if he came back, you know you’d go running back to him faster than the speed of light. 

But honey, you are a force to be reckoned with. You don’t need his sun because you have your own light and it shines brighter than any star in his orbit. Any boy who doesn’t value you for who you are and what you’re willing to do for them, doesn’t deserve to benefit from having you in their life. He may love you, he may even care about you somewhere deep inside. But what he is doing about it is nothing, and since he is doing nothing, then you need to follow suit. Pack your bags, close that door, and move on with your life, because chasing after a boy who is not willing to fight for you is like allowing yourself to be kicked into the dirt by a bully and asking for seconds.

I know giving up the thing you thought you always wanted is hard. I’ve been there. I once loved a boy so much I would quite literally go running whenever he called. I let him walk all over me for 2 years, hoping and praying that every time he marched back into my life that this would be it. This would be the time that all those promises he made over drunken phone calls would come true, and I would be happy. But he was only a tornado in my already hectic life, and one day I woke up and realized that I needed to stop running for someone who wouldn’t even crawl for me. People say that all you need is love, but that is not true; love can only go so far. 

At the end of the day, the only obligation you have is to yourself. When the dust settles, and he is gone, it’s you that you are left with. So, why do we show him more love and respect than we show ourselves? If I can say one thing to you, let it be this: Love yourself first. Love yourself more. He isn’t worth your light, he isn’t worth your love, and he isn’t worth your mental health.


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